It’s amazing to me how few people plan anything in their life. That’s a bit like having an auto-pilot in charge really, just meandering from thing to thing, from place to place, from experience to experience. With no goals or destination set, the auto-pilot is just going to keep flying around. You might get lucky and end up in some place you really love, but what’s the likelihood of that?

Imagine for a moment that you are flying around the world… think of the wonderful places you can go and the experiences you’ll have there. Then remember that you have to plan to land at an airport! It’s probably not going to be quite as much fun if you land in the sea, or in a field. You’ll probably spend your time repairing the plane to try and get it back in the air.

So if you have no target, no goals or destination planned, expect to land somewhere you have no wish to be. If you truly want what you want, then switch off your auto-pilot, take the controls and set your target and plan to land at the airport, not in the sea!

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Imagine the scene… Hundreds of hens running around in acres of beautiful woodland, breathing the fresh air, frolicking with each other, really enjoying life! Then a team of collectors with baskets spend a joyful morning finding the eggs…

Ok, a little OTT, but then the truth… In order for the manufacturers to claim woodland eggs, there must be 1 tree per 5 chickens. The trees can even be saplings! Not such an
idylic setting then! A hundred chickens running around 20 saplings. Probably no more “good for you” than free-range eggs, but a nice premium on the price tag.

Now, this got me thinking about beliefs again. If it’s that easy to create an impression from the words “woodland eggs”, imagine the ideas and beliefs we hold about other things that aren’t quite how they really are. Indeed some of the truths we hold dear are really not truths at all! However we would defend them if they were challenged because they are true. To us.

So next time you are challenged in something you believe in, or believe to be true, remember the woodland eggs and make sure you are at least prepared to hear the opposing view and see if there is any truth in there for you! If not, that’s great, accept that that person thinks differently to you. We are only right and wrong by our own definition. There is no absolute right or absolute wrong - you make up your own mind.

Of course, to me this is right, to you it may not be! Either way is great!

As the Buddha said, “Believe nothing. Do not even believe me!”

Be more,

Dan

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In a recording by Esther and Jerry Hicks (authors of The Law of Attraction) and also in the film The Secret, Esther says that if today was your first day on the planet we would say to you, “Welcome to Planet Earth”. The vast majority of people who embark upon a journey of self-development and change, wonder what they would have done if they’d only found that book or heard those words 5, 10 or 20 years ago (or more). It matters not when you make the decision to change, only that you make it.

Life is about becoming more than you are today - all that you are today is the result of all that you have been being, thinking and doing. To have more than you have today, you must be and do more than you have been being and doing! So it’s as simple as that??!! Well… erm… Yes! Kind of!

My experience and training in Coaching has also highlighted that although the above is true, there are many factors that influence the outcome or the having bit! Some of you may already know (certainly the vast majority of my clients reading this will) that we all have “Limiting Beliefs” - these are beliefs that you form in your childhood that work against you in your thinking. It’s not all “bad”! Indeed, you probably welcome the limiting belief that prevents you from running out into the road to retrieve a ball you want to get. However the vast majority of our limiting beliefs do not serve us well.

The “good news” is that you can easily spot them in other people, the person who constantly puts themselves down, the person who lacks confidence and shrivels up when anyone talks to them. The “bad news”? It’s pretty hard to spot if they’re yours! They can affect money, confidence, family, relationships, work, business, motivation, health and many other areas of life.

Obviously a Coach or Psychotherapist can help with these challenges and there are also courses of self-development that will tackle these issues. If you find that you are pretty good at setting goals, but things don’t quite work out right, the chances are you’ll have a few of these “Limiting Beliefs” interfering with your goals.

So, off to Google to search for solutions to your limiting beliefs? There are many out there and my advice is to find something that works for you.

In the meantime:

• be aware of the possibility that you may have limiting beliefs
• try and notice yourself when you behave or react in a way that is not normal for you

In that moment or soon afterwards, ask yourself the questions:

• Why did I react like that?
• How can I change that behaviour or reaction another time?

Be More,

Dan

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