It seems to be part of our nature that we make judgments. We do it unconsciously and all of the time.

From our very first few thoughts we are trying to make sense of the world around us. Our brain has a compulsion to understand everything that we see, hear, feel, smell or taste. This, of course, is how we learn.

One of the challenges facing an Executive or Life Coach is being able to be totally impartial and non-judgmental. This is also something that is very useful in all walks of life and can often make the difference between greatness and normality.

When someone or something presents you with a situation that defies some of your core beliefs, this is a near impossible task. Your brain must support your beliefs, that is its job, hence you are likely to react with a strong emotional response.

One of the most effective ways to remain in a place of non-judgment, is to simply remember that this person or situation is not part of your experience. It certainly is not in your realm of responsibiliy.

You can, of course, try to change them or the situation, but how likely is that? From the point of view of a coach, this is overstepping your role and responsibility, and it undermines your ability to facilitate change.

So when someone does or says somehing that you choose to react to with judgment, remember that this person is creating their experience, just as you are creating yours, and has chosen their own actions. If you can offer them support with this understanding, you are well placed to help them to help themselves.

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