Something I read this morning in a book by Eckhart Tolle, “A New Earth” has really helped to click a few ideas into place for me with regards to being non-judgmental. The ideas I present here draw on his writings and other information I have gathered from my work and experience. Personally, I prefer the term unconditional acceptance to non-judgment as it focuses on what you want, rather than what you are trying to avoid - judgment.

From personal experience, I have found non-judgment and unconditional acceptance very easy in my work as a life coach. The reason for this lies is in my belief that my client is able to be creative, resourceful and whole. In short, I believe they have the potential to be, do and have anything they want. Furthermore I understand that the person who presents themselves to me is not neccessarily who they really are.

I’m certainly not suggesting that I am judgment free, I acknowledge that in many ways we are programmed to judge from birth. Indeed some of the judgments and beliefs we create are vital to our survival. I think that the most enlightened we can be is to unconditionally accept things, in spite of our judgment of them. In other words, as long as we acknowledge our judgments and do not allow them to shape our thinking, our words or our actions then we can be true to ourselves.

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