According to this BBC Report, Robbie Williams has problems with his confidence. For most people, this will be totally dismissed as nonesense because it doesn’t make sense that someone with confidence issues could sing live in front of thousands or even millions of people. However the truth is that everyone experiences confidence challenges, however there are some people who have learned to get through it.

There is no need to make comparisons between ourselves and famous people like Robbie Williams, our own experience of confidence is our own. No-one is likely to ask you to sing in front of thousands of people, and if they did you’d have to get through it somehow, or run for the hills.

The bottom line is it’s ok to have issues with your confidence. There are some people in life who push themselves to overcome their fears to see how well they can master their self-confidence. Again, this is not something that you are likely to choose for yourself. What we can learn from these people who do it anyway, in spite of their fears and lack of confidence, is that we can overcome these things for ourselves. For you it might be that speaking up in a meeting fills you with fear and dread, or it might be doing some public speaking, or as simple as speaking with a difficult boss.

We are all capable of overcoming our fears and finding our inner confidence. Sometimes it can be as simple as giving yourself a push in the right direction – so if you are asked to do a presentation, accept before you think to say no! Once you’ve got through it, of course you are going to review your performance – don’t forget the things you did right! For one, you got up there and you did it – which is unlike your normal self. Learn to focus only on the good points – ok it’s hard, but it’s better than beating yourself up!

If you ask someone who appears to have good confidence, “What areas do you feel you struggle with your confidence”, there won’t be many people who answer, “None”. From my own experience of coaching un-confident people and those who attend my workshops, I find that the vast majority of them appear to be confident already. It’s about how you feel, and realising that you are not the only one… it happens to everyone.

Take a leaf out of Robbie’s book and just do it.