Comments on: On Being A Victim http://www.aquariuscoaching.co.uk/the-blog/2009/10/on-being-a-victim.html Life Coaching, Dream Manager and Soft Skills Training Sat, 09 Jan 2010 22:15:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Dan O'Neil http://www.aquariuscoaching.co.uk/the-blog/2009/10/on-being-a-victim.html/comment-page-1#comment-15391 Dan O'Neil Sat, 09 Jan 2010 20:35:20 +0000 http://www.aquariuscoaching.co.uk/blog/?p=179#comment-15391 Brian, great points. I love the expression "pity party", it truly sums up what the situation really is. Brian, great points. I love the expression “pity party”, it truly sums up what the situation really is.

]]> By: Brian@composite panels http://www.aquariuscoaching.co.uk/the-blog/2009/10/on-being-a-victim.html/comment-page-1#comment-15140 Brian@composite panels Mon, 04 Jan 2010 21:12:17 +0000 http://www.aquariuscoaching.co.uk/blog/?p=179#comment-15140 I have experienced many of these people that habitually wan't to play the victim. There is a very interesting phenomenon here. These people can't just keep to themselves. They have a desire like a magnet to seek out others and tell their sorry story. They enjoy in creating a "pity party" to help in comforting themselves. By persuading another person about the victim's circumstance, the victim takes some comfort that someone else is empathizing with them. Although this pattern will serve to comfort the victim, the others caught in the net will get dragged down. Moral: don't get caught to join a "pity party" or your own psyche will suffer. I have experienced many of these people that habitually wan’t to play the victim. There is a very interesting phenomenon here.

These people can’t just keep to themselves. They have a desire like a magnet to seek out others and tell their sorry story. They enjoy in creating a “pity party” to help in comforting themselves. By persuading another person about the victim’s circumstance, the victim takes some comfort that someone else is empathizing with them.

Although this pattern will serve to comfort the victim, the others caught in the net will get dragged down.

Moral: don’t get caught to join a “pity party” or your own psyche will suffer.

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