In a recording by Esther and Jerry Hicks (authors of The Law of Attraction) and also in the film The Secret, Esther says that if today was your first day on the planet we would say to you, “Welcome to Planet Earth”. The vast majority of people who embark upon a journey of self-development and change, wonder what they would have done if they’d only found that book or heard those words 5, 10 or 20 years ago (or more). It matters not when you make the decision to change, only that you make it.
Life is about becoming more than you are today – all that you are today is the result of all that you have been being, thinking and doing. To have more than you have today, you must be and do more than you have been being and doing! So it’s as simple as that??!! Well… erm… Yes! Kind of!
My experience and training in Coaching has also highlighted that although the above is true, there are many factors that influence the outcome or the having bit! Some of you may already know (certainly the vast majority of my clients reading this will) that we all have “Limiting Beliefs” – these are beliefs that you form in your childhood that work against you in your thinking. It’s not all “bad”! Indeed, you probably welcome the limiting belief that prevents you from running out into the road to retrieve a ball you want to get. However the vast majority of our limiting beliefs do not serve us well.
The “good news” is that you can easily spot them in other people, the person who constantly puts themselves down, the person who lacks confidence and shrivels up when anyone talks to them. The “bad news”? It’s pretty hard to spot if they’re yours! They can affect money, confidence, family, relationships, work, business, motivation, health and many other areas of life.
Obviously a Coach or Psychotherapist can help with these challenges and there are also courses of self-development that will tackle these issues. If you find that you are pretty good at setting goals, but things don’t quite work out right, the chances are you’ll have a few of these “Limiting Beliefs” interfering with your goals.
So, off to Google to search for solutions to your limiting beliefs? There are many out there and my advice is to find something that works for you.
In the meantime:
- be aware of the possibility that you may have limiting beliefs
- try and notice yourself when you behave or react in a way that is not normal for you
In that moment or soon afterwards, ask yourself the questions:
- Why did I react like that?
- How can I change that behaviour or reaction another time?
Be More,
Dan