I’ve been thinking a great deal lately about the role of a life coach in someone’s life. To me, unless you are incredibly self-sufficient, if one of your goals is to be the best you can be, then you need a coach. The life coach’s role is to challenge you to new levels of achievement and happiness in order that you can exceed your own expectations of how far you are able to go. Working with someone who is impartial and has the ability to help you to see beyond your highest vision of yourself is an incredible experience (one which I would sorely miss if I didn’t have the opportunity myself).

So what can you do to get the best out of yourself? Here is an exercise that will help you:

1. Grab a pad and write down as much as you can to express the highest vision of yourself that you are able to see. Imagine that anything is possible – don’t limit yourself by your current situation or experiences. It can be a really useful exercise to consider a particular area of your life – maybe one that you wish to make improvements to. You can pick from friends, family, health, work, recreation, character, money, physical environment, spiritual or choose a word that has meaning to you. Make it more of a description of yourself (than simply a list of words) in relation to your chosen area. Ensure that you write it in the present tense as though it is happening now. Ignore the doubts and negative thoughts and feelings you might have as you are writing – it’s not important whether you believe you can be, do or have any of this right now. We’ll call this your “New Desire for Yourself”.
2. If you are a believer in the Law of Attraction (and usually make things happen for yourself) then this may already be enough for you to begin to create this reality in your life. Simply read it through every day – making enhancements and improvements if you feel like it – and really believe this “New Desire for Yourself” is your reality now. If you want to make sure, then you can move onto the next step.
3. Considering your current situation and reality, begin to write down a list of options available to you in order to begin to move towards this “New Desire for Yourself”. Be open to anything that you think of, even if it seems like a ridiculous option, write it down. For many people, this list of options will grow and evolve over a period of a few days or weeks – as you read it through every day (as often as possible really) then ideas will come up that you can add to the list. Now, at some point you are going to have to take some action to change.
4. Take action! Massive action will lead to massive results – if you are really serious about making these changes and achieving your new desire, then you have to make big changes. I’d suggest that for the majority of people who “try” out the law of attraction, their biggest downfall is not taking action or making changes. You can’t think things into being – you have to do something also!

I genuinely believe that there is no substitute for coaching if you are in pursuit of self-excellence. However, there is much that you can do by yourself and I hope that this simple process will help you to create a better reality for yourself.