There’s a great comment appeared on this post – what kind of world do you choose to live in? where Terry from Scrub Tops (link credit where link credit is due!) talks about having an F5 key programmed into his brain. Whenever things get on top of him, or he gets weary of all the bad news he imagines himself hitting F5 (which is the refresh button on most browsers these days) and then it refreshes his mind.
I find this a really powerful idea and something that is adaptable to anyone. If you’re not used to using the F5 key on a computer, then pick something else that reminds you of being refreshed. Perhaps you could imagine your brain taking a shower, or give yourself an imaginary favourite drink. I’d love to hear your suggestions in the comments below.
So thanks Terry from Scrub Tops (if that’s indeed your real name!) and I hope, like me, that you will find this a useful tip whenever you need to think more positively.
I’m a member of an online coaches discussion forum and there was a really interesting discussion about plagiarism. It reminded me of a thought I’d had several years ago about what kind of world we choose to live in.
For the most part, people tend to live in a world filled with fear and bad things happening. It is this place where the media is king and we are reminded constantly of how awful life is. A long time ago I made a decision to live in a different world – in a place filled with love, awe and wonderful things happening. It was quite a turning point for me.
I understand of course that there are things happening in the world that people describe as “bad”, however for me, I choose to live in a different world where I see the good in people and things. The truth is that things are only good or bad because we say they are. On whatever level (either consciously or un-consciously) people are attracting and creating their own circumstances. In essence, (I learned this from Neale Donald Walsch) everything is perfect as it is.
My truth is that I am able to define things as good or bad as I choose, not as I am told to think. If things in my world are not as I want them to be, then I have the power to change myself in order to change those things. Of the many things out there that are considered by many to be “bad” I appreciate that there will be a few people who recognise their power to make changes. I am not here to bend the world to my will, or to create a perfect environment or society. I trust that everything is and will always be perfect.
I create my experience. I choose.
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This is my first post in a while and I wish it was all to do with the arrival of my son last month (we have a daughter also). I’ve certainly enjoyed the ability to have a little slow down in work to appreciate him when he is so small! One of the motivating factors for me in becoming self-employed nearly 9 years ago now, was to create a life and lifestyle that meant that I could enjoy time with my children (who were only on the plan back then) and feel as though I was a major part of their lives. It’s certainly been an interesting choice and anyone who is also self employed has probably experienced the wonderful highs and lows that this choice often affords you. I think without the opportunity to experience lean months and difficult periods, I would not be able to fully appreciate the life that we now have.
I suppose my point today is that we can appreciate our difficult circumstances, although they are often extremely painful at the time, as an opportunity to experience what we do not want in our lives. Without experiencing this pain, we cannot fully appreciate the experience of joy that the opposite circumstances bring. For example, how could we know hot if we did not know cold? How can we know love if we do not know fear?
There are many great teachers who have written about these things, I first discovered this idea from reading Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch. The message for those who are experiencing difficult times, is to learn to use these times to be able to appreciate the good times. If you have little money, then appreciate the experience of having little money in order to fully appreciate the experience of having more than enough money for everything you want. If you are ill, then appreciate the experience of being ill in order to fully appreciate the experience of being well.
I’m certainly not proposing it is an easy thing to do, but it can really help to bring you through the rough times and focus you on creating the great times.
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Here’s my list of great questions to ask yourself to get the most out of your life:
- How can you be happier?
- What difference have you made to someone’s life recently?
- If anything were possible, how would your life be different today?
- If you could only do one more thing in your life, what would it be?
- What are the top 5 qualities you have that you’d like to be remembered for?
- What have you done that you are most proud of?
- If you could live anywhere, where would you live?
- What 3 things can you change about yourself to make yourself a better person?
- What are your top 10 life goals?
- Are you willing to make changes to your life to improve your circumstances?
- [Jeff asks...]Are you willing to lean toward longer term goals instead of shorter ones?
- [Lisa asks...]What is something new that you have learned today?
- [Martha asks...]What did you learn today? (Similar but different!)
- [Chris asks...]Are you always trying to improve something in your life or surroundings each day?
I’d love to hear your own ideas for other questions we can ask ourselves – leave a comment below and I’ll add them to the list.
I’ve just been adding a few appointments to the diary for next week and I was thinking that as it’s Thursday that we’re nearing the end of the week. It was then that I noticed that actually Thursday is the middle of the week (Monday to Sunday) and there is still almost half a week left of this one. It strikes me that perhaps time is the only thing we treat in this way… for example there are not many people who get half way through a drink and think that they are nearing the end of it!
It’s so easy for us to slip into the trap of living from our free time to our next free time (for most, weekend to weekend) that we forget about the moment. Work occupies so much of our lives and for the vast majority of people, there is no excitement or will to be working. I feel privileged to be doing something that I love, to the point that it no longer feels like work. So for most, there are 5 days of 7 spent dealing (and accumulating stress) with something that enables us to have 2 days that we can call our own. To me it seems as though this is a really sorry state of affairs and one that can be really helped by a shift in attitude.
I’m always banging on about how we need dreams and goals in our lives to make sense and meaning out of the work that we do and I guess that’s one way to help us to remain present and focused during the times we spend at work. If you find yourself in this space of living from precious weekend to precious weekend, with the inconvenience of work in between then the chances are that you do not have personal goals in place to be working towards. It becomes too easy to be tired when you get home and even bring work home to the point where you have neither the time nor energy to do anything in your free time. I suppose this is what is called the daily grind!
In the absence of finding what you love to do for a living, then find what you love to do in your spare time and use your living to fund and facilitate that. I often have clients who tell me that they are in a place that they wouldn’t describe as being depressed, but they are feeling unhappy about their lives. In the vast majority of these cases, simply plugging them back into their personal goals in life, transforms how they are feeling and they are able to move forward in all aspects of their lives.
If you are living your life from weekend to weekend or day-off to day-off, then make sure you have some personal goals in place that will help you to keep upbeat and positive in the stressful times you may be experiencing.
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